Hard labor and Deliver? Please post any thoughts?

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear about all your problems, to me that doesnt sound right at all, as far as I know you shouldnt be told to push until you are 10 cm dilated so that you dont tear etc, I was feeling alot of pressure and wanted to push at 9 cm but they made me breath through my contractions and didnt allow mre to push until I was 10 cm, I didnt have an epidural I only had gas and air so I cant really help you with that, sorry. The fact that he pulled her out instead of waiting to see if you could do it yourself, since she was nearly out anyway sounds a bit weird, I have never heard of that, usually they would give you a chance to push and then if she was stuck they would use the suction or forceps but from my experience they try not to use those methods unlesss they have to. A friend of mine had the same problem with her placenta, there was a bit left inside and she hemorraged and had to have blood transfusions, she was told she could take the hospital to court becasue they made an error and it could have resulted in her dieing, you are supposed to push the placenta out yourself, the body expels it when your baby has been deilvered, it should not be pulled out. Maybe if you had some sort of counselling to try and get you over this horrible experience you would be a bit more relaxed about having another child? I really wish you the best of luck with your little girl and any future babies you may have :)